Fighting Fair
I always thought that being in a relationship, having a boyfriend or husband, would be like floating on a cloud; laughter, flowers, holding hands and stealing kisses when no one was watching: that was when I was single.
Now, don’t get me wrong; being in a relationship is wonderfully pleasing. The hand holding, the kisses, the flowers, it’s all there; and the laughter too. But a relationship is a lot harder to manage than I initially thought. People’s flaws wiggle through the woodwork eventually and sometimes those imperfections can eat away at your soul. And, if you don’t communicate and work things out, the very thing that attracted you to this person is now the thing that drives you down right out of your mind; in a bad way.
I am not an expert when it comes to relationships. I have dated here and there, but until recently I have never had a serious relationship. I am new to it, so I may not be the best. I may not know when to shut up and let something go. My nature is to be consistent until what I want happen happens, or I drill it to the ground and it blows up in my face. I may take things too seriously and jump to conclusions that don’t exist.
Fights happen, people get angry, and things are said out of frustration. The key to fighting fiar is to communicate and respect each other’s opinions and feelings. Otherwise, it’s just a bunch of yelling and screaming for no reason at all; and no one wants to wake up the next morning with a soar throat and dry eyes for nothing. Do it for a reason; work things out. The difference between a relationship that works and one that fails is the effort in communicating. That, along with love is the simple recipe for relationship success.
